C.

For the blogspot reader, let me introduce C. He was the 1st of the pick of responses to my Craig's list ad. Out of over 100 responses there were basically less then 20 that even came close to what I was looking for. I've met him over lunch and he does seem like a nice genuine guy.

C. is a cop and he is also Cuban like myself, which makes language fun if in a scene. Only thing with C. is that he is a virgin...... a BDSM virgin.

I go carefully with virgins because it's happened so many times before, where fantasy and reality do not mix.

For example I'll tell you about one client long ago that requested a session from me. He did inform me that he'd always had submissive fantasies and wanted to be taught from a professional how to please a dominant partner. I asked him to detail his fantasy for me so I could gauge what he was really looking for.

There was a lot of kneeling, some spanking and light bondage, but what stuck me the most when he was talking about his fantasy the high level of protocol. I correctly assumed that he had been in the aol dungeon chat rooms and this was what he had thought bdsm was all about.

Simple enough I thought to myself and agreed to meet him and to introduce him to a light session with light protocol.

He arrived at the proper time and I sat down with him to go over the "rules" and what I expected from him. I explained safe words, and that based on our conversation that that session would be more along the lines of light training. I asked him if he wanted what I had proposed and he said yes.

I taught him commands that I would say in German or Spanish and what those commands would mean. If I said "Knien" It meant that he should kneel a certain way. If I said "Ven" he should follow me always staying a bit behind me, etc etc.

We had done well about that point, he was eager to learn as much as he could. When I moved him to the spanking bench, that's when things began to unravel for him. He had requested a spanking, but the reality of it finally clicked on a internal button and he told me he had to stop.

I asked him if he wanted to safeword out of the whole scene altogether and he said yes. I did talk to him and he was honest enough to admit that he didn't really like the feeling of submitting and it wasn't the spanking bench that through him off, but his mental picture of himself crawling after me that had disturbed him. He felt really guilty for having wasted my time, but I re assured him that it was perfectly ok to deal with pretty intense emotions when first venturing into the lifestyle.

He eventually did come back for another session and we did follow through with the spanking scene. He was by then much more comfortable with me and I had given him a lot of resources where he could learn more about BDSM and if it was right for him.

C. wants to please and submit to a woman but he also has never done this before. He is also wanting me to read his mind and that can wreak havoc. For now I am going to send him links that he can read up on and depending on how he feels, then a meeting should be set up for next week.

I do want to meet again and see if there is any sparks that fly. C. is not what I call "prey" but he's someone that I might enjoy service submission from.