Because there isn't enough time! Seriously, my email box is quite full and even if I were to search for that right submissive partner I have to first weed through the mountain of emails like these:
1. Penis pictures - seriously do you think this is going improve your chances of getting a reply?
2. The mass generate email to all new ads in hopes that like fishing, that someone will take the bait.
3. The Doms that insist that you might find them attractive enough and continually send you emails hoping to break down your defenses.
4. The much much older gentlemen that god bless them, are actually the nicer bunch or the horny teenager that wants to tell you how his cock and tongue are a gift.
I began by being polite and just replying that I wasn't interested, I've now just began deleting out right. If I do get a decent reply and and just email once or twice and it doesn't seem like there is chemistry, I am slammed because of it.
I know that male submissive complain about these sites, but if you were in my shoes you might understand why you might not get a response.
It would help you better if:
1. Just be up front and friendly, Don't call me Goddess, Mistress or any thing else that is a title that you have no right to call me yet.(You have no idea how this might offend me) Indicate that what was it in the ad that attracted you to me.
2. Have a picture. Really let's be honest that there has to be an attraction factor, as least for me. If I posted my pictures then I expect the same at least in a email, this is a online personal site and No just because I am dominant that does not mean that I have to respond just because you are a submissive.
3. Have patience and not be insistent by sending emails everyday asking why I have not responded..Dude you are giving me the creeps by doing that.
Also know that I may respond but it's going to take a little bit of email and phone chat to feel you out. That means feeling comfortable enough to eventually meet in a public place.
At this rate I doubt I will either have the time, mental organization, or energy to even look at submissive ads.
5 comments:
The penis photograph is an old "favorite" of mine. I got tired of them when I was trying to find a local guy to date (non-BDSM).
It says quite a bit about a man if he seems his phallus as his most essential or interesting attribute.
Oh Richard!!! you make me laugh. ;-) Although I've gottten pretty penis pictures it just icks me when all you have to say about yourself is your tool.
BTW my vibrator does a mighty fine job all by itself and I trreat that tool like the the slave that most men would want. I use it then ignore it.
Sorry a partner is something I rather be human with.
I find it incredibly difficult to hold back when (on the rare chance) I actually get a reply from an email I sent.
Out of maybe 100 emails I'll get 3 replies. So when someone replies I'm overeager, excited, giddy and yes...desperate to keep her attention
I know for a fact I've scared off a few by emailing every day after getting one reply. At the same time I find that acting calm and collected also hurts because some see it as a lack of interest.
Do you think there's any point to a submissive even trying to find someone online?
Axe, I might say the same thing if there was any chance of finding someone through ads. I think yes you can, but it's good to take time, patience and lots dates and emails.
I am going to write about a positive response with a gentleman yesterday.
For me this is a lot of wrok, it is a quest in a way. I will n ot settle and therefore it means going through the mountain of email ad finding a gems somewhere in there.
Also I am not limiting my search to only online ads, I am attending more local events, munches, conferences as well as talking about it on both of my blogs.
I'd tell you what if you were closer I would definately love to meet you, just based on your writing. I think you are a really cool person. I am sure you've met alot of interesting people through your blog, perhaps you'll meet your Domme one day that way.
So don't get discouraged.
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