The well planned scene vs spur of the moment.

Ahh let's get comfy because this will be a long one, kick off your shoes and sit a spell with me.

There are four types of scene that I normally engage in.

For the purpose of this post the scenes are detailed in a non sexual content, although depending on the relationship that can be.

1. Spur of the moment, we are together and I get in the mood to do something to you or want you to do something for me. This normally happens in a established relationship or with really good friends. I have to be able to know you well enough and of course you have to have a certain measure of trust in me.

2. The casual play of friends mostly this will happen in a club or convention. A friend might have asked me that last time we met that they wanted to be flogged, caned or how hot it would be to be tied up. I ask a few more questions, cover the basics -safewords, triggers-good and bad- and then have fun.

3. The scenes that are training, or rather it's mutually agreed that we had a specific protocol or goal for these sessions. Again this would require a relationship since there would be a D/s dynamic and there would be long term goals. Here is where I enjoy improving my bondage skills. This may also be the place where service submission is honed in, through commands and tasks. In these session not only is my submissive learning to improve him self or herself to please me, I am also improving myself.

4. And then there is the carefully planned out scene, the one that often develops organically, over a period of weeks and involves lots of discussions. Out of all the scene detailed above this last one most certainly does involve some sort of sexual component for me. There is a lot of mind play and build up energy. These sort of scene I reserve for long term friends, lovers and relationships that I have a strong bond with. These type of scene push me as well as my bottom/sub to that edge that we also like to get so dangerously near.

The energy differs quite a bit from say scene #1 to say scene #2, also you can see where in #2 I am more of a service dominant, where in #3 and 4 I am not.

I recently had a#4 type scene with a very good friend that I had known for a while, her Master, and Amo. It basically began when K asked a simple question about a intense scene involve very light pain at a party. It morphed into a month long seduction and discussion on the topic, until K gave her consent.

It required on my part, preparation (eg: looking a Chinese water torture device) getting the right uniforms for all involved, discussions with her, her Master and Amo and basically test driving the device to see if it would work at all. (Yeah that meant me under the drip mechnaism to see how long it would take me to finally want out) To interrogation methods research. As you can see a lot of work and mentally energy was put into that scene in order to have it work the way I wanted it to.

All parties involved were mutually satisfied with the scene and I know as a top that I enjoyed myself a lot, K. thought it was a wonderful scene and she was very happy that so much effort did go into it that it felt very real and not a role playing exercise.

Although I do have a #2 sort of relationship with K. it was rather nice to be able to provide a scene that required as much of myself as that one did. It gave me the nice top headspace that is the flip of bottom space.